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ALLOWING THE FLAME TO BURN OUT.

Updated: Jun 29, 2025


After a Loss


Reaching out…

Wanting a saviour.

Anything to ease this pain~

This grief for a dream once believed in.


Could it be the parent who cannot hear you?

The next relationship that could rescue you?

The bottom of an empty pint glass?

The next distraction?


A room full of friends having fun~

Until you wake, yet again, alone.


Reaching out…

Where can I find something~anything~to desperately fill this void?

This pain and fear that arise, too much to face.


Feeling alone on this planet,

No one who truly understands.

Others, too lost to help.

Or too distracted to notice.


Loneliness.

Fear.

A desperate plea from within, wanting to arise~

Like a wounded animal, abandoned in an open field.

A scream wanting to break free.


Then~

A rabbit in headlights.

Looking to the left.

Looking to the right.


No-thing here.

No one to save this me.

This ‘I’ I believe myself to be.


And so, there’s nothing left but to allow.

To face it.

To feel it.

To stop~

Yet somehow, to carry on.


Because you see,

Underneath it all…


It is here.

It has always been here.


Whether tears are still falling,

Whether fear is still burning~


It’s here.

This Love you crave.


Let the flame burn through and out~

Rather than poking endlessly at the coals.


It has always been here.

Beneath all the noise.

In the stopping.

In the seeing.


In this Silence.

In this death of belief.


There is Love.

True Love~

The kind no words can truly describe.


❤️


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4 Comments


Susan Merriman
Jan 05, 2023

Thank you, Jolene. It's comforting to know you're out there. ❤️

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Jolene O'Brien
Jolene O'Brien
Jan 05, 2023
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It’s a true gift to assist 🙏🏻😘🥰❤️

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Diane Jones
Diane Jones
Dec 23, 2022

Your writing is so beautiful, Jolene. It’s insightfuL, heartfelt and so eloquent 🙏💕🌺

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Jolene O'Brien
Jolene O'Brien
Dec 23, 2022
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Thank you so much. Thank you for being here 🙏🏻❤️🥰🙏🏻

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